Helping Students Handle Anger

Each week on the QuaverSEL blog, we’re highlighting one of the core CASEL competencies and a sub-skill. This week, we’re taking a look at self-management and just one of the many resources available right at your fingertips to help students master impulse control.

Your SELMusic library is a powerful resource where you can find music-based content organized by song, CASEL competency, and more. 

Today, we’ll take a look at a Quaver original teaching song found right in your SELMusic library, “Anger’s Not the Boss of Me!”

Anger’s Not the Boss of Me

This song, perfect for Kindergarten through 3rd Grade, demonstrates impulse control and gives students self-control strategies for when they feel angry. 

The song starts out by addressing why the central character is angry.

Ask your students if they have ever felt angry before. What made them angry? What did that feel like? 

Can your students already recognize some ways that they can calm down when they feel angry? 

Talk with your students about ways to calm down when they are feeling upset. Some of these self-control strategies include: taking a few deep breaths, taking some time by ourselves to cool off, and talking about our feelings. 

Use the breathing exercise in the middle of the song to demonstrate how a few seconds of calm breathing can help students feel better when they are angry. 

Mad to Calm

Back on the SELMusic Hub of “Anger’s Not the Boss of Me,” you’ll find an interactive activity called “Mad to Calm.”

This screen helps students to discover ways they can become calmer when they feel angry. It is also good to point out to students that it is not necessarily wrong to be mad. However, there are healthy ways to handle those feelings. 

Invite students to share what happens when they feel mad and some strategies they use to go from mad to calm. 

On the screen, click each of the suggested self-control strategies to learn more about them and how students can move from feeling mad to calm.

These are just a few of the resources at your fingertips for addressing self-management and teaching impulse control. 

Stay tuned to the blog in the coming weeks as we dive into social awareness and perspective-taking. 


How will you address self-management in your classroom?